blondetabatha

I consider myself 'newbie friendly', always have been. There has been a recent influx of new gents with no references or presence on the board. Hey, we all have to start somewhere. So, for all you newbies that are trying to get established, here's some protocol.

1. If you have no references on this board (or if your references are unverifiable), you will be expected to give your info. This varies from provider to provider. Could be your linkedin, name, phone number, picture, etc. Be prepared to provide what she needs to feel safe. The most common thing I hear is "Why don't we meet in a public place? You can see I'm a great guy" Never going to happen.

2.When contacting a provider, communicate in a style that is polite and easy going. If you are not a gentleman via email, why should it be different upon meeting in person? Any provider would run for the hills with that sort of behavior, and it's justified. Act like a gentleman speaking to a lady and you'll be fine.

3. DO NOT ASK SEXUALLY EXPLICIT QUESTIONS! I understand you are new. But this is the fastest way to be blocked. blacklisted, or have everyone think you are LE. Instead, read her likes/dislikes on her profile, research her reviews (lots of helpful info in how her sessions go), and if she has a site, read it carefully. If you are still not sure, realize you are not guaranteed anything more than a pleasant experience, and see how it goes. If she has great reviews, that doesn't necessarily mean she'll suck toes...so if that's your thing, be prepared to go with the flow.

4. Day of appointment: Okay, you've got this far. You passed through the screening and came out unscathed. You've got instructions and a time. Follow that time, or be early. Late arrivals are not generally greeted with enthusiasm, but if you are late, communicate. Honor her time. She should return the courtesy. If she leaves you waiting in a parking lot for 30 min with no info, take off...that's a red flag.

5. Arrival: You're here, YAY! Okay, be cool. I hope you've showered, shaved, and smell lovely (including your breath). Be polite, greet her nicely, and set your donation on the closest table or area that she can see and leave it there. Put it in an envelope, do not hand it to her. This seems odd, but do it anyway. Then excuse yourself to the restroom. She will check your donation and relax a bit.

6. Afterwards: You've seen her, it went great! Congrats! Send her a note, thanking her for the visit and asking if you may review her. Once reviewed, you can vouch for her, but make sure to send her a note letting her know this has happened, as many don't see reviews right away. Once that's done, ask if she would vouch for you, and maybe be a reference in the future. Now you have a reference. Best to get a few, then you'll be considered established.

I hope this helps. Now, get out there and have fun!